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Guest Post: Reflections on Punishment in a DD/bg Relationship

Guest Author: mostlyangelsDD {with mostlyangel} @ FetLife

I first got involved in BDSM nearly 25 years ago. Through three long-term relationships in the lifestyle, my preferences have evolved to become monogamous long-term Domination and submission (DS), with a healthy dose of bondage and discipline (BD). I have a good grounding in aspects of sadism/masochism (SM), having long ago owned a pain slut…but it turned out that’s not really me. Basically, I’m a Dom who likes kinky play, including only light to medium pain, and I’m comfortable with it. It is who I am. As a Dom, one of my requirements is the right to punish/discipline my sub. Generally, it is not needed often; but she must consent that I have that right.

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What is DD/lg to me

What is DD/lg to me?

i say this all the time, the best part of DD/lg and D/s is that everything (rules, descriptions, opinions, etc) are all subjective. Every person is different, and every relationship is different. Trying to put people into a box that is one-size-fits-all would be impossible, and would leave everyone feeling insecure and vulnerable. i see people on other blogs and forums asking so many questions about whether or not they fit in. Here’s a perfect example that i found, “my Daddy and i like to play rough in the bedroom, and i like pain during sex. Can i still be a little?” Of course she can. Being little is about who you are, and not some title given to those who qualify and meet special criteria. The whole world of BDSM is subjective. All the information you will ever find, including this post, is someone’s opinion, and not fact based on science. No test can be taken to prove that you are a Dom or a little, or any other title found in the BDSM world. Just be who you are, and find the title that “best” describes how you feel about yourself and your relationship. You are the only (and best) judge. All of that being said, here is my opinion on what DD/lg is to me!

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Daddy Dom Struggling With Punishments

Punishing Your little is vital and, can sometimes be very hard to wrap Your head around. Deep down, You don’t want to hurt Your little girl because, dammit, she is so fuckin’ cute; but You also feel compelled to teach respect and proper behavior. It is really important to remember that by not punishing Your little, You are doing more harm than good. Every little will test her boundaries, and if she finds that there are none, she will ultimately feel lost, confused, and unloved. She needs to know that You love her enough to teach her how to be Your “good girl”. It is every little’s desire to please her Daddy Dom, and to be praised for doing so.