Doesn’t it feel like life always seems to get in the way of the life that you want? Sometimes it’s all too easy to get caught up in the stress, pressures, deadlines, and changes that life throws at you, that you end up missing the best parts. Living a 24/7 D/s or DD/lg lifestyle takes a lot of work and is easily the first thing pushed to the back burner when life is getting hard. You think, “it’s ok we can just take a short break while we figure this other stuff out”, but then more and more “stuff” gets piled on. Before you know it, a year has passed; and while you may be closer to your overall goals, you may also be more distant than ever from your truest needs.
I have a sir but, we have the most unusual of relationships. I am his slave and he has a girlfriend. I feel I already know this, but I don’t have any real person to talk to about it. We’ve been doing this for several months now, known each other for a year and a half. When I found out he had a steady girlfriend, I backed out. And then with more conversation, I was drawn back in. He has the best of both worlds. And while I enjoy the daddy/girl play, I want more. I feel it’s unrealistic to expect it from him for various reasons (being that he is with someone else), and also that he’s said that it’s better for a guy I’m dating to see me as the person their dating first over them being my master.
Basically I should just give this up, shouldn’t I? The holidays are coming and I already feel left out. The “baby’s” and everything else just don’t cut it, but I’m not sure how to end it without sounding like a desperate person. I just want to sound like someone who isn’t getting everything I need, and that’s it.
For example, master always wants me to perform by video since he doesn’t get to see me often when he’s traveling; and outside some verbal praise, that’s it. When we are together he does give some after care… idk I’m feeling less fulfilled and more used and left feeling empty…
~ Good girl
First, I’d like to acknowledge that we may not have all of the facts yet. There’s a great deal of information here, and I’ll do my best to drill into it objectively. Second, I’d like to say how sad I am for you that you’re in this position. It’s hard to be caught in the middle; especially so close to the holidays! It sounds as though you’ve mostly made up your mind about how you feel in this relationship. The next step is action, but there are a few things to consider first.
Guest Author: D.Dom
A little is not a child. A little is a mature woman that preserved childlike characteristics. Therefore her personality is unlike a general adult. It is substantially determined by attitudes, habits and behaviors that are more typical for a kid than for a common adult person. This is particularly true of needing guidance, control and protection from a dominant partner and caregiver.
As a little is needy, she may sometimes feel like a burden for her caregiver; being stressful and insufficient. To better understand her particular attitudes and characteristics, we illuminate the relationship from the dominant side. Here are ten nonsexual reasons why a Daddy adores his little more than everything else in the world:
These past months have been extremely stressful, and one of the most difficult times for me as a person…ever. A parent passing, another diagnosed with cancer, a depressed child (who’s father left him recently) and deciding suicide might be something worth considering (avoided, by the way). It’s been an unreal year in a lot of ways.
Thank you all so much for your patience during our extended silence! We’ve both missed you, and really want to keep writing again.