Being a little without a Daddy can often feel daunting and lonely. Here is the secret, it doesn’t have to be! There are so many ways to make this free time work for you, and not against you. Having this alone time gives you the perfect opportunity to work on yourself; without any distractions. We get a lot of emails with questions about being a little without a Daddy Dom. We wanted to answer all of them and decided to do it all in one post!
Am i still a little, even without a Daddy? YES! Can i still act little without a Daddy? YES! Can i still explore this lifestyle without a Daddy? YES! What can i do while waiting for my Daddy to find me? Keep reading!!!
Go on little dates with yourself or a trusted friend!
Go out and have fun being little. Go to Build-A-Bear, frozen yogurt, a movie theater, the zoo, children’s museum, etc; alone or with a trusted friend who won’t be bothered by your little side. Have a blast with it, and let your little flag fly high. Honestly, you don’t need a Daddy to go on a date. Go ahead and order off of the kids’ menu, giggle out loud, squeal at the site of your favorite Disney princess, or whatever your little space may look like! There is no wrong way to be a little. All of this free time is the perfect opportunity for you to explore and discover your likes and dislikes of being a little in public. If it makes you more comfortable, go to a place far away from your normal area so you are around people you will likely never see again (until your next alone little date of course). This way you won’t be as shy and you can let your little wall down.
Buy yourself some little supplies!
Want a binkie that says Daddy’s Girl? Buy it! Want coloring books and that big box of glitter crayons? Buy them!
This is your chance to try everything without a watching eye, to see what you enjoy doing when you are in little space and what really isn’t you. Some recommended items, that are my personal favorites, would be stuffies, sippy cups, binkies, art supplies, Tangled (or any animated movies), lollipops, goldfish crackers, juice boxes, journal, dollies, stickers, tiara, tutu, and soooooo much more! Have fun with it and find what speaks to your inner little!
Take time to be little just for yourself!
Carve out time in your day or week to just be little. You don’t have to plan anything extravagant; just make time to be yourself and probe deeper into who you are! Going into little space can be so relaxing after a long day. Taking time for yourself to be little encourages that piece of you to really be free. They say practice makes perfect. Well, for the longest time, a majority of us littles have trained ourselves to hide and just “grow up”. So now is the time to practice letting go of that rule and just being little!
Write a journal with letters to your future Daddy!
How cool would it be to have a whole book of letters to show your Daddy when the time is right? He will have an insight into your growth as a little, and read about your struggles so He can help guide you when you finally connect. He will also get an idea of your boundaries, so He knows how far to push you to be your best you. If i could go back in time, this would definitely be something i would have done for my Daddy! The coolest part is that you are discovering yourself through a documented work; so you can look back on your growth and learn from your past anytime you want. you also don’t necessarily have to write them to your future Daddy. you could write them to your future self, or to a future “little” friend whom you may mentor someday.
Take time to work on your issues!
Right now is the perfect time to work on you. During this time, try to learn how to eat healthy, join a club or gym, seek therapy, start a new hobby, work on fixing bad habits, make new friends, etc. This way, when you do meet your future Daddy Dom, you will be emotionally and physically healthy so that you can be the best version of you that you can possibly be.
Set your own rules and boundaries!
Without a Daddy there is no one to make sure that you brush your teeth or set a bedtime for yourself. This is a great time to do that for yourself, to learn your likes and dislikes. Do you like having a sticker chart, bedtime, rules, etc? Create your own sense of structure in your life. This way, your Daddy will have a springboard to start from when He shows up. He will know what your likes and dislikes are based on your own exploration. i would recommend that when the time comes for your Daddy to set boundaries and structure, try to be open-minded and try new things in case your taste has changed with time. The experience may be different with a second person.
Don’t be afraid to pamper yourself!
Being alone doesn’t mean you cannot be treated like the little princess that you are. It is important to treat yourself even if you don’t have a Daddy. It shows yourself and any potential Daddies that you are special, and deserve to be treated well. So go get your nails done, get a massage, go on a trip, get your hair done, or anything that makes you feel important and beautiful. you are more than worthy of being well cared for!
Connect with other littles!
Making new friends in this community can be so fun; and extremely rewarding. It is also a great opportunity to learn and ask questions from a more experienced submissive or little. There are so many blogs, forums, chat rooms, online gaming, and local meet ups that are DD/lg friendly. There is literally something for everyone!
Do you guys have any ideas for single littles? Opinions on this article? We love hearing what you guys have to say, so please comment below! xoxo