So I’ve known about the bdsm and dd/lg lifestyle for quite some time now, and I really think it fits me. I want to bring it up to my boyfriend but I’m not sure how. We already have our kinks and whatnot but when I call him daddy, I’m not quite sure what’s going through his head when I do. I know he won’t completely be appalled by the idea, I just don’t know how to suggest it to him. ~babygirl
Thanks for writing! I went back through our past posts, and could have sworn we’d answered this somewhere. But I couldn’t find it, so here are My thoughts on how to tell your boyfriend (or husband) that you want them to be your Daddy.
Feeling “little” without a Daddy can be extremely lonely. My princess and I were fortunate to have already found each other before we even knew what DD/lg was, and I can only imagine what it’s like for those that don’t. Hopefully you and your boyfriend can experience the world of wonder that this lifestyle can bring!
First thing’s first, and I mention this statement to princess all the time:
I can’t make good decisions with bad information.
If you don’t ask him (or tell him), he’ll never have the chance to fulfill that need for you. For all we know, he may be feeling the same things as you (or similar). You both share certain kinks, maybe this is one of them…and perhaps one person doesn’t know how to bring it up to the other.
Do you trust him to keep you safe and protect you, no matter what? If yes, chances are he’ll hear you out and want to treat this as a learning experience to hear more about what you’re into. At its core, BDSM relationships require discussion of what each person’s soft and hard limits are. These discussions also commonly cover each person’s kinks, and (at least for you) it sounds like DD/lg is one of those that should be explored.
One of three things will happen:
- He’ll be turned off by the idea, and not want to continue it further.
- He’ll like the idea, and want to include it in scenes in the bedroom.
- He’ll like the idea, and want to incorporate it into your daily lives.
In terms of how to suggest it to him, try just bringing it up casually. Such as:
Hey, so I’ve called you “Daddy” several times, and I’m wondering what you think about that. Can we talk about it?
Take the conversation from there. Another thing you can probably do is walk him down the aisles of the grocery store on a regular shopping trip, but pick out “little” things that catch your eye. Maybe jump up and down and squeal when you find something cute, or show him the sippy cup you like the most. Okay…maybe those are a little over-the-top, but you get the idea. There are ways to show him in a serious way, and ways to show him the “little” way.
Either way, I think he’ll get the message loud and clear. And remember; depending on how serious you both want this to be, there will be effort on both peoples’ ends to make it work. It takes two.
Here are some helpful articles to get him started in the lifestyle:
- How to be a little
- 10 Rules for Your little
- Top 15 Ways for a Daddy Dom to Make His little feel “little”
- Top 26 little date ideas
- Daddy Dom Struggling with Punishments
- Top 10 Important Things a Daddy Needs to Have at all Times
Have any thoughts, or something that I missed? Please tell us below!