One of the hardest things for a Daddy (or any Dominant) to witness is their little’s mistakes. We try our best to shield them from harm, heartache, financial loss, etc. Our experience should play a role in our guidance role. Sometimes, however, our best isn’t good enough. Mistakes are going to be made, and “I told you so’s” excluded, how we react in the coming moment is important to your partner. These tips should help you when you find yourself on the witnessing end of a mistake with your little.
It probably wasn’t on purpose
Mistakes aren’t made on purpose; they’re accidents. She didn’t plan for this to happen, but it did. Support your little like you’re her #1 fan, and she’ll be your #1 fan forever. She looks up to her Daddy Dom, and she needs to know you’re proud of her even when she lapses in judgement. She’s already feeling silly for whatever happened, and a distraction might be in order for a while. Maybe take her on a walk or bake some cookies with her. She’ll treasure the memory, and you’ll both get a yummy treat out of it!
Even if it was, she’s doing her best
If any of you are like my little, she’s scared of crowds, talking to people on the phone, and other misc. social anxiety circumstances haunt her. In her typical day, she’s balancing a ridiculous amount of tasks that may involve some of her PTSD triggers. She might have made a decision that got her into this tough spot, but it probably made sense to her at the time. She’s doing her best, and chances are really good that she’s doing it in your name. You’re the sparkle in her eye, and she wants to please you.
Right now, she really needs your support
She might need varying levels of support dealing with consequences of a mistake, including financial. Right away, though…she just needs you. She needs someone to comfort her and let her know that her Daddy has her back. Explain to her that you are there for her, she isn’t alone, and you’ll get through whatever it is together. Maintaining this incredible bond will ensure you both have a stronger trust foundation to work with going forward.
None of this is by accident. Each of you sought out the other because something was missing. This is the chance for her “missing” to become the “found”, and burn bright. She’ll know what it is when you act on it, and make it more than words in a contract. If she’s horrified of making calls, help her make some of them, or be available to proxy for her on speakerphone if necessary. If she’s scared of crowds, schedule a time together and accompany her to the building she needs to go to; or, if able, complete the errand for her this time.
What can you do?
There’s a lot you can do. Few of us choose to follow through. Dig deep into your inner Dominant, and think about what drives you to care so much about where you fall in this world. What inspired you to want to Daddy a little or dominate a submissive. Why do you do it? If you’re honest with yourself, you’ll find you already have these caring qualities and probably still do these things today. If so, awesome job! If not, it’s never too late to start by answering with action.
Have any advice or thoughts on this article from either the Daddy or little side? Let us know in the comments!!