As most of you know, I’m the Daddy, and princess is My little girl. I’m also the Dom to her submissive, and head of our home. Not just to her, but our children as well. We have four children (15, 11, 8 & 5), and pulling off the DD/lg lifestyle can be difficult at times.
Getting over fears of being little (or Big)
Kids are smart. They pick up on a lot. They question everything. They’re inquisitive, and want answers (often). Having a house full of kids, it can lead you to feel out of place, or like you’re doing something wrong. Depending on the person, it may feel awkward to pull out a pacifier or a sippy cup in front of the kids. It’s not “normal”, and certainly most other couples don’t do this.
So we’re weird, right? Well…not really. Maybe. But at the end of the day, what we’ve found is that our children don’t care. They questioned it a bit at first, and we answered them with things like: “My little girl wants to be a princess, too!”, or “This pacifier is for my teeth so they don’t grind.” We don’t generally go this far with public display out of the house, but in the house…it’s our home. It’s our choice.
We try to be respectful to others around us. If we have company visiting, we’re probably not taking it that far. But with the kids around, they’ve generally been pretty accepting of everything. I’ll cater to princess and get her woobie (blanket) for her (I love to spoil her rotten). I’d be happy to take a moment’s break and get her a juice box or her sippy cup. Or, maybe fix her a snack and put a movie on for some quiet time.
While it all may seem “weird” to some people on the surface, it’s kind of fun! The kids get to snuggle up with us and watch that same movie. They usually get to participate in some way with the snacks. Most of the time, the kids feel like everything is normal, and that we’re just playing around and having fun. And really, they don’t actually need to know that we’re as serious about this as we are. That’s our secret, and we share as much as we feel is comfortable.
Relationships with children in a DD/lg household
This part’s interesting. We’ve talked about it, the two of us. When as is said and done, we feel that our relationships with each of the children are better than they would be if we weren’t a DD/lg couple living together. Everything is pretty natural, and commonplace as far as most parent/child relationships go.
For princess, she’s little. Who better to relate to a child than a person in little space? She’s playful, funny, and willing to participate in games at any time. Most of the time she shares, and is an exceptionally caring person. For her, the kids are like kids/siblings. she’s both a mother, and a peer to them (at least in my eyes).
For Myself, I’m Daddy to both the children and to princess. I parent all five of them, and rule the household with her much in the same way I would with just children alone. I will admit that there’s a different kind of love I show for princess in all of this, though. After all, we are consenting adults and over the age of 18, so we have a different set of limits for ourselves than we would with the parenting of the children.
Punishments for My little girl when our children are present
If punishment is deserved for My little girl, she often receives it in private. But there are ways to do it around the children. Such as: “shushing”, a light pinch on the thigh, a slap on the hand, taking a privilege away (denial of something), early bedtime, or sometimes a small spanking. Most of the time, the kids see these as playful, and no harm is done.
Are you a DD/lg couple who also have children that live with you? We’d love to know your experiences, so please tell us in the comments!