Top 20 things every Daddy Dom should do for His little

We’ve all been there. We get busy with life, and forget that one of our DD/lg duties is to nurture and encourage our special person’s “little side” to come out and play. It’s not all bills and errands; and there are so many things you can do to help bring out the child-like behavior you know and love.

Here are the top 20 things every Daddy Dom should do for his little.

  1. Hold her hand while crossing the street, watching a scary movie or…just because.
  2. Leave loving notes all over the place to surprise and delight your littles’ heart.
  3. Brush her hair, help her bathe (bubble baths preferably), treat her stuffed animals like living creatures and talk with them.
  4. Know all her stuffies’ names.
  5. Punish misbehavior with time outs, spankings and occasionally make her write out an apology or things like “I won’t sneak a cookie before dinner” (50 times is good).
  6. Take her to fun places that appeal to her inner little. Places like the zoo, a kids movie, build-a-bear, the swings at the park, an aquarium, or a carnival.
  7. Reward good behavior with treats and kind words of encouragement.
  8. Never lose your temper just because you are having a “bad day”.
  9. Know all of her favorite foods, allergies, and all of her favorite things; whether it be color, hair bows, dress, or stuffies.
  10. Bedtime routines. If you’re going to do something, make sure (if circumstances allow) that you do it everyday without fail. If you stop doing something you always did before, it makes the little feel as though they’ve done something wrong to lose that treat. Examples: brushing her hair, reading her a story, or just tucking her in at night.
  11. A good Daddy Dom does not make idle threats. If you threaten a consequence for a certain behavior you are looking to change, and do not carry through, not only will the little not learn to break the habit, but they will take your threats with a grain of salt. Also, it may make the little feel unimportant if a consequence is not followed through with.
  12. Always spend time reassuring your little of your love after a consequence. They need this assurance, and the knowledge that you still love and care for them. Aftercare is incredibly important. After all…this relationship is built upon trust.
  13. Send your little a text message (or many) throughout the day if you must be apart. It warms their little heart!
  14. Surprise her with a new stuffie from time to time. Personally, I like to do this when My princess is feeling sick. Flowers and a stuffie is sure to brighten her day.
  15. Watch a Disney movie of her choosing with her. And it doesn’t hurt to know her favorite one…and all the songs from it. My little girl’s favorite is Beauty and the Beast Frozen Tangled Suicide Squad.
  16. All boo-boos, whether scratches, bruises and scrapes need to be looked after by her Daddy. Nothing makes a little feel safer and totally cared for than having a feel-better kiss, or their Daddy getting them a cool band-aid (Hello Kitty works well). Be sure to lavish them with lots of TLC!
  17. If your little makes you something: no matter how big or small, you should always make them feel like their creation is cherished. Hang it up, save a pic on your phone so they see you like it and plan to look back at it…anything at all. Nothing is sadder than a pretty picture, colored with love and care, that is left sitting and collecting dust, and then forgotten.
  18. If your little is in a playful, youthful mood (and you are not), do not roll your eyes, get mad or yell. Simply and calmly tell them that Daddy is not feeling playful right now. Everyone can’t be fun and playful all the time. Littles understand that…even if upset about it at times. So tell them, and that way no one’s feelings get hurt, or feels like they did something wrong.
  19. Aid the age play dynamic. Do such things as carrying, lifting, and reaching high places for your little. It helps them feel as though they are seen as vulnerable and protected. Also, asking things like, “Are you sure you don’t need Daddy’s help putting that straw in the juice box?”, or “Maybe I should do that, it’s a big job, too big for you.” It keeps the little feeling happy and loved.
  20. Ask your little to sit on your lap from time to time. It’s an instant smile and a blush trigger. Other things also work like tying their shoes, brushing their hair or buckling their seatbelt.

These are all simple and spontaneous things that you can do to make your little beam with pride from the attention given to them when in a DD/lg relationship. If you have any suggestions we may have forgotten, please let us know in the comments!

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  1. This list was really helpful for me. Sometimes i struggle verbalizing what i’d actually like my Daddy to do for me but after reading this, i decided to ask if my Daddy would run me a bath as i love taking baths but i usually always run them myself. Daddy ran me a bath and then, to my surprise and delight, sat with me while i soaked in the tub and then washed my back for me. i felt totally relaxed and very little ^.^ thanks for all the ideas x

  2. My boyfriend and I just started doing ddlg a couple months ago and we’re doing pretty good. I sent him this and things went even better ^^

  3. My daddy is the best!!! He always kisses my forehead and tells me he loves me. I love my time with my daddy especially when im over his knee tehe

  4. thank you… my little girl just came out in the last few months and I’m in a relationship with someone who understands that vulnerability and treats it with tenderness and care. How lucky am I, right? he always responds very positively to my submissive side, but this is still an area where I lack the confidence to bring forth my needs. Or my desires. He has seen me in the stuffed animal aisle at the shops, and says I’m adorable and hugs me, but still, just the sharing of that can be very hard! allowing myself to be cared for and vulnerable is still a sticking point in my ego and stubbornness. Hrm… it makes me feel very shy and very timid. Thank you for this list, hopefully I can be brave and share it with him .

    • Sounds like you’re on your way to a wonderful experience! Remember, a good Daddy will always have your best interest in mind. As you become more secure with his intentions, your little side will be set free.

  5. I told my daddy a few days ago about me being a little, and I was actually surprised that he was okay with it. My past boyfriends found it weird, but he’s into daddy kinks or daddy Dom relationships and I’m so happy. I love my daddy very much, he always kisses my forehead or my boo boos, and he makes me hot cocoa and Mac n Cheese. He plays with stuffies with me and he braids my hair and we play save the princess from the evil dragon a lot. He’s so amazing and he holds my hand when we go past scary people (we live in a scary town) and he will cuddle me an watch movies with me all the time. I have lots of stuffies from him and pacis and I get a juice box whenever I go to his house. (Mum and dad won’t let us live together yet) but anyway he’s an amazing daddy and does a lot of these things so if you’re a new daddy for a little and you don’t know exactly the best way to be a daddy, definitely follow these

    • This is amazing! My daddy/Dom does this as well! He always tells me he loves me, and makes me feel so special. I love my daddy!!!! He tells me constantly he loves his baby girl.

    • Hi! For a lot of people (not all) the DD/L relationship is about the little being able to express her vulnerability in a supportive environment where the Daddy ALWAYS has his little’s best interest in mind. This is the reason most of the best Daddys are very mature and usually a little older. The best advice I can give you is make sure you communicate and he communicates with you.

  6. I am very new to this and am having problems understanding a few things… I love my Daddy and do everything he asks .. Even when I don’t agree or I am exhausted.. I work nights and sleep days .. 4 days on 4 days off and my Daddy knows the schedule… I do what he ask… He has been in this lifestyle for over 30 years and has had both slaves and Babygirls but I think he is getting them confused… He tells me everything he is going to do for me but I am still waiting… We have been together 7 months and since I am the newbie I feel that I am expecting things I shouldn’t.. I was in a horrible marriage for 25 years and I feel like I am falling back into that hole… Daddy treats me much better than my ex but the broken promises … I can’t do broken promises again… I believe he loves me but then I feel like a slave and not a Babygirl .. And I am not making any sense… Just so upset.. I do everything he ask… But I am too the point that I don’t believe when he says he is going to do something nice for me… And besides your list above what are a Daddy’s duties or I guess chores not sure what I mean… But I read lots of romance novels and the men carry in the groceries and the men fill the car up with gas and the men put the groceries in the car … Shouldn’t Daddies do that kind of thing or is that just wishful thinking?
    I am sorry for taking up you time
    Thank you
    Gezelle

    • Yes… You’re not being treated like the little you are. You’re being abused! He’s not a good daddy. He is slaving . Get out now.

    • gezelle ~ i am so sorry you are dealing with this. To me, your Daddy sounds like he is wanting a different kind of relationship than you. That is where really good communication comes into play. Talk with Him and let him know that you are unhappy with how things are going and would like them to change. Let Him know you are not a slave and you have no desire to be a slave or even a mix of slave/babygirl. If He gets defensive and tries to put it off on you, like you are wrong, please remember that you are the only person who get to decide what your limits are. There is absolutely no reason a good Daddy Dom would break a hard limit. If He refuses to change, then you should get out of the situation. Life is way to short to be unhappy with the wrong Daddy. i am so sorry you are having to deal with all of this. For someone that has been in the lifestyle for over 30 years, He should know better. Being a Daddy s a privilege and protecting His little is His number one job. Best of luck. xoxo

      • I recently told my fiance/Daddy that I want to be a little , I always knew I wanted this but I was so afraid to speak of it because I thought my fiance was going to look at me like I was a freak but it’s definitely something that I desire and that I need,I’m very new at this and I think he likes it a little bit but he doesn’t fully understand what I want from him or how to play Daddy, I tell him what I want but I think he feels shy or maybe he’s not into it as much as I am I don’t think he likes feeling like he’s controlling me but I don’t feel that way at all ,I feel like I need it, he is the man that I love and he definitely would be such a great Daddy Dom, I call him daddy and ask him for permission to do things, but when I’m a very naughty girl he doesn’t spank me or put me in the corner or lock me in a cage ect.he doesn’t even discipline me when I’m a bad girl and I want that so bad, I almost feel like I act out because of it ,how can I make him more of a daddy Dom because I really need it in my life and I also really need him.

  7. I’m a little and my Daddy doesn’t really take care of me all that much. Whenever he’s with his friends he ignores me and treats me like a normal highschool aged girl. He always says that he loves me but he doesn’t really show it. He’s always using bad language when playing games and it’s really starting to bother me. I’m always trying to accept that that’s the way he is but it still really hurts and I’m kind lost in it all…

    • i would definitely have a conversation with your Daddy ASAP. He needs to know if your needs are not being met and it is effecting your trust in Him. Once He has the information He should do His best to find a solution or compromise that works for the both of you. If He refuses to change, then you need to do whats best for you and possibly move on. Life is too short to be unhappy in a situation that you can change. i am so sorry you are dealing with this. Sending you big hugs. xoxo

  8. I recently got into a relationship and my boyfriend say he has a daddy kink and he likes that I’m so small and childlike. However, I dont think he knows exactly how to be a daddy. He is fairly new to this and I’ve been looking into this for quite some time so I probably know more. I think he mixes up many parts of bdsm;like thinking bondage is part of the daddy kink and other small things. I think he only knows about the parts the media has went over like where girlfriends call their boyfriend daddy but don’t mean anything. Anyway, is there anyway I could possibly teach him to be a better daddy or ease him into this?

  9. Hi. Im a new daddy and would like to know how to help my little with her eating habits. She doesn’t eat much and will only eat once daily. Next day will fast. Should i set a rule for her to eat two small meals. Only thing is she gets v upset when i mention food. I don’t want to upset her but she weighs 9.4 stone now and wants to be 8.5 . Should I encourage n support her diet. She knows more than me about being a little than i a daddy. We chatted about my past and feeling an found i had the traits of a daddy. Nurturing etc. I care for her so much and want to do the right things but i am still learning so any advice would be brilliant. Thanks.

    • It sounds like she may have an eating disorder. This goes beyond the DD/lg dynamic and is not something that any partner friend or family member can try to deal with on their own without professional help.

      Encourage her to see a psychologist. Don’t try to force her to eat, and don’t make a big deal about food or eating. Guide her gently, make her favourite foods and offer it to her in small portions, but absolutely insist that she see a mental health professional.

      You can take her yourself and maybe have a couples session in which you can bring up your concerns about her health and eating habits. She will need you to work closely with her case workers to recover, follow their advice, give her a good sense of autonomy in all decision making etc …really I just can’t stress this enough, get that girl to a professional!!!

  10. My daddy… isn’t really a daddy. He is trying though.
    In my past relationships, I have always wanted my boyfriends to take charge and be daddy. Thus far, none really have. Now, I am dating a wonderful man who is kind and caring, but he can be a little immature and preoccupied. I know he has other things to do, but being daddy isn’t a priority for him, I feel. I try to ask him what to do, and we’ll do it for a couple of days, and then it falls through. I’ve shown him websites and articles and this and that… I don’t think he understands how important this is for (what I feel like is) my sanity. Being little is my chance to escape all of my adult responsibilities and just relax. I know he needs his time, too, and maybe being daddy isn’t his way of relaxing… I just feel like I’m never going to get him to be my daddy. Or for that matter, find anyone who would be… I feel hopeless.

    • I am new at this. And there is a lot I need to learn. But can a confused Daddy earn there way back? I am learning and starting to understand. I am wanting to understand and be more a part in her life.

  11. hi i have just met the most beautiful girl with the most beautiful soul she is truly spectacular in every way . she has been alone for so long because she had a secrete . she shared her secrete with me it was something i had never heard of so i googled it and it made me love her a bit more.This is the most amazing loving and caring thing ever . and so understandable if your little princess has had a traumatic past This is so new to me and feel the weight of responsibility as i know letting your little one down is not an option so thank you for your 20 things list god sent .

  12. What a cool site! My wife and I haven’t been aware, that we are living happily as Little and Daddy for seventeen years now. To us, it’s natural behavior, although we have toned it down in public a bit and we have adjusted some public-embaressment-factors; e.g. it doesn’t need to be the school-girl’s outfit and the pacifier to pass as a cute Little visually and my Little does not alter her voice or performs any Little-roleplay. She’s Little by nature anyway. Also there never has been punishment envolved, as her manners are flawless; in our case, discipline-games are for fun only.
    Especially reading your 20 things a Daddy should do for his Little and the 20 things a Little should do for her Daddy has helped us a lot to realize, that we actually ARE in a DD/Lt- Relationship and made especially me aware, that I must pay more attention to some of my Little’s needs.
    People often say, they envy us, because we are obviously living in a harmonic and happy relationship/marriage (we sometimes have our differences, of course. But never mean and never in public or noticable for family and friends).
    Thanks to you our life just got a little more harmonic and a little happier. It’s good to know, we are not crazy and that there are others who treat eachother with the same respect, love and tenderness.
    All the best for all you Littles and Daddies. May you treat eachother right – a little spanking included, now and then, of course ^^

    Greetings from Germany

  13. Hi guys I’m seeking some advice for my current relationship, I’ve been with my baby for a while, she’s into the ddlg lifestyle and I am as well I’m just very new to it, we’re both 21 and this is my first serious relationship in general so you could say I’m pretty fresh to relationships as well. She requested I make rules for her, which I have and she loves the rules, problem is we’ve not followed them and haven’t been living a ddlg life, we’re just stuck in this vanilla phase and I’m not sure what to do about it, im not sure how to get her in her little space and she doesn’t act very submissive to me but I know she wants to, she’s very bratty but sometimes I feel her bratiness isn’t her little self coming out it feels more rude and disrespectful to me, she’s been through a lot of shit in her life leaving her with bad depression and somewhat of an anger issue. She tries helping me by showing me things that daddy’s do and say and all that is great but I’ve tried askin her to write out exactly what she wants out of the lifestyle but she says she doesn’t know, it’s like she just expects me to know what she wants and what to do when I’m so fresh to the lifestyle, I am definitely a dom but she doesn’t seem to take to being controlled and I feel like if I go to correct her bad behavior and punish her she may just get angry and say hurtful things and lash out at me because of her childhood and shitty influence from her father, she speaks to me in ways I really do not like but am not sure how to go about it because I don’t want to set her off, I love her to pieces and would do anything for her but am just kind of stuck. She makes trying to live the lifestyle hard.. I’m the most reasonable and gentle guy so I never would fight back with her. Any help/advice would be much appreciated, thanks.

  14. I’m just getting into this for my girlfriend, who’s a little and went behind my back to get a daddy… I want to step up and earn that spot… So please any advice to a newbie like me???…

  15. Hey so my new partner was a virgin when i met him and in all my past relationships i have been a little and i need it in my life but i dont know if i should bring him into this lifestyle i dont know what to do, i love him and care for him very much but i feel a little lost as to what i should do about it…

  16. My Daddy is my husband of 14 years. He does most of these things. Some of them don’t really apply to our dynamic. This is a wonderful list.

  17. I find that my littles favourite thing is for me to cuddle her tummy and draw little circles on it, it doesn’t matter the occasion or where we are (for example when we go out to Starbucks with friends she will lay into my side and I will cuddle her tummy without them seeing). It just brightens her day no matter what withier she’s had a good day or not it brings an instant smile to her face and is also a great way to bring her into her little zone if she is stressing