To whom it may concern, Hello, I’m a Daddy Dom living very far away from my precious Little. As our relationship goes, things are very good, save for a few things that I just can’t shake. I have a few questions and problems that I’m hoping to have answered and solved. We’ve been together for about a year and a half now, and it’s been an amazing ride for the both of us. Actually, the idea of us being in a DD/LG relationship wasn’t even thinkable until about a month ago. We started following the ideas, and she decided she would like to be my little, and I couldn’t have been happier. I love my Kitten to death, before this kink even found it’s way to us, and I’m very fair and loving and caring. We live very far from one another, across the United States almost entirely. This means that there is no actual contact, which we sort of take care of by by role-playing over text. This also means, my punishments as a Daddy Dom are nearly useless, and my attempts at achieving an actual Domination over her just as useless. I find myself trying to be dominant, and I’m met with tears, anger, or quiet. Sometimes she will even go out of her way to express it by backing away from me via role-play. I feel like a monster, an evil villain, other things like that. My girl is not into spankings, kinky sex, or submitting to my authority. She hates spankings (they aren’t even real for fucks sake) more than anything, and any and all of my punishments are ignored. I feel like a useless Dom serving only to role-play as someone to spoil her, which I did before all of this. My main concern is that I’m just being selfish and cruel, expecting more submissive behavior where none is expected. After all, it’s just text, and that’s what scares me. I wan’t to know what I can do better to make my little feel more like she needs to do as I say over the distance, and not make her hate me. Thank you very much for reading, and if this letter makes very little sense or feels mixed or poorly written, it’s because my emotions are currently getting the better of me and I can barely think as it is. Regards, A Concerned and Unsure Daddy Dom ~ Panther
i am sorry You are having such a hard time with Your little. i do not like to judge situations without being in them, but with what information You have provided, i will do my best to help out. To me, it sounds like she is only in this relationship for herself. A little is another form of submissive. Submissive behavior is not about receiving gifts from your Dom and being spoiled. It is about what you can do to serve your Dom. It is their only job, and believe me…it is a big job.
You should send her information on what it means to be a submissive. If the two parties cannot meet the others’ needs, it’s going to be a very bumpy road in the relationship. More importantly, the power exchange dynamic. That said, someone who loves another will do just about anything in their power to show love and respect to the other person. You are not a bad person for wanting her to follow Your rules. You’re a Dom at your core, and for her to ignore that wouldn’t be right. The heart of this type of relationship relies on each person doing their part.
i hope this helps. You sound like You are trying to do all of the right things. You deserve happiness and someone who loves You, but also someone who will serve you. It seems like a good time to have a serious discussion about the parameters of the relationship, what each person wants to gain out of it, etc.
Please leave comments and opinions. We love to hear what everyone has to say. Has anyone been in a situation like this that can help?? xoxo
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